Children, yes… or no?

I heard, sadly, a few times, that people are caught up together cause they had children.

Let me try to explain to you why this is not a good idea…

• Children will grow up following Mommy and Daddy as their examples, role models, is your plan to teach them love or that you are stuck with someone because of their birth?

• Women, unfortunately, do that. Monsters? No, it’s instinct; men like to chaise women, women do anything to keep men. Is it a good reason to stick to a woman you are leaving (for any reason, good or bad), no. It is not. If you are trying to leave, you should go.

• Compromises due to blackmailing, are not really compromises, are purely and simply blackmail. Are you going to teach your significant half that whenever something doesn’t work or you are going to leave, she needs to find a reason to chain you down and put you in cage? Trust me, having a child with someone you don’t want to be with, will feel like a cage. No one, especially the child, will not benefit from it.

It’s hard, I know, she comes to you ad she says “I’m pregnant”, and you know that little thing growing is yours as well, is a piece of you, it’s a bit of you… and still, you need to have the balls to say “no” if you don’t want.

It does’t mean you won’t be there for the kid if she still keeps it, but you need to stand up to someone having a tantrum and is willing to put a creature in this world just to have leverage. It’s awful, yes, is it legit? No, will she still do it? YES.

The minimum you can do, is not to comply to her unreasonable behavior. Man up. She will respect you more in the end that in any other moment, cause in the end that is what women want, a man that can be a man.