We all get to a point where we are told we are doing the wrong thing.
Why do you do this and this and this and this…? And what is the right thing to do?
As ugly as it might sound, there is no 100% right or wrong, there is what we need and makes us happy.
You are in a relationship? Good for you! You can enjoy all the perks of being in love and having someone at your side! But, it’s not a bed of roses you know? You can probably figure a few moments where you though “wtf am I doing here”. If you didn’t you will.
What does this mean? That you need to throw everything out of the window? Dear lord, no.
You need to educate your partner, that’s all. A-ha, educate? Is she a dog? NO. But a partnership requires rules, and following the rules requires education.
If you are with the right person, she will want your happiness, if she does so, you need to let her know what you need to be happy.
Is it space? Is it sport? Is it sex? Is it a type of sex? Just tell her. It’s not easy to speak, not easy to open up, but if she doesn’t know what you need, she can only guess… or do what would make her happy. Unless you have the same needs, it won’t work, and you will be frustrated. What will frustration lead your relationship to?
Speak, talk, sit down, shout, write… there are many ways to communicate, find the right way for the right situation to let your dearly beloved know what you need for you balance.
Does she want kids? Marriage? Wealth?
What can you offer? Do you want kids too? This is something you BOTH MUST CLARIFY from the start! After 4 years is a bit late to tell her you don’t want kids! TELL HER NOW!
Discuss compromises, midways, what you are willing to do to help in the house, and what you expect her to do… and work on it.
If you have a deal, you both must keep your word.
If you want to see the football match once in a while… clarify what “once in a while” is.
If you like to go to the gym often…. clarify what is “often”.
TALK.
And after that, make sure there is a certain education on what you both need to be happy.
Yes, even a relationship is a work in progress.
Do you know what women want? 