Women are well known to seem to want to have random fights over nothing right?
They start crying over something that looks so small or minor, like having a mental breakdown because you left the toilet seat up.
It’s normal, it happens to everyone, you are not the first to encounter such bizarre situations, and it will not be the last!
Possibly it is really bothersome, especially if she is precise and puts effort to keep the house tidy. Put the toilet seat down.
But, if we are just speaking about her having a random hysterical moment, it is your duty as a man to take care of it, if you run away from it, what man are you?
First you need to understand what the problem really is:
- Is she just very tidy and likes to keep the house in order?
- Did you say you would pay more attention and you did not? (Not keeping your word)
- Did she tell you several times and you simply don’t really care?
- Is this just a small drop over 100 more things that happen and just made her explode?
- Is she just crazy? (Most would go for this option, we need to make sure that the ones above aren’t correct first, or maybe is one of the above and she is also crazy!)
Push her till she tells you, do not accept a “you should know”, or “I told you already”, try everything to make her open up, that is your goal at first, let her vomit everything that is inside, she needs to let it all out, and it will not be easy.
One you manage (if you manage, good luck with that by the way), you need to really understand why she feels this way, and as a woman, her reasoning will be reasonable.
This is something we need to specify: what is reasonable for her, might not be reasonable for you, respect it and share your feelings about it (not your judgment, but feelings, to do that, you need to start the phrase with “I feel” or “I believe”, not “you are”), hug her, get her to calm down a bit and tell her “let’s find a way together”. You can’t really change your habits or way of thinking, but you can start accepting her different way of viewing things first (crazy or not) and find a solution.
When you will find the solution, the common ground, you must keep your word no matter what.
If you can’t keep your word, she will loose trust in you, she will not rely on what you say, and… there you go another mental breakdown.
It might be hard, but if you agree on that solution, you need to be able to do it.
Good luck!
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